We've all struggled with our thoughts controlling us at some point. Probably every single one of us has. Whether you struggle with it on a daily basis (train thoughts*), or you just have random thoughts that you don't want, but can't get rid of. Or maybe you're one of those people who have no idea what I'm talking about. If so, read no further. This blog is for those who HAVE struggled, who continue to struggle, and who are looking for ways to end the struggle!! That's right! It ends today!!!
(*train thoughts are the thoughts that start small and keep gaining and gaining speed, and then the brakes go out and they can't stop unless they ram into something, and even then it's a huge disaster because a freight train just ran into a town square)
Well, technically I can't end your struggle, and it probably won't end in just one day... BUT, you CAN begin your journey to end!! And the good news is that the more you work towards this, the easier it becomes, and the happier you are!! It sounds wonderful, doesn't it? :)
The absolute first thing we have to do is accept ourselves (past and present). I harp on that a lot, don't I? Acceptance of oneself is a crucial component to growing. A typical response to a bad memory, fear, or unsettling feeling is to fight it. We don't want those types of thoughts and feelings in our head! We only want the good stuff!! How much we love our spouse or the happy memories of our childhood; nothing bad!! ::sigh:: I wish it was that easy. :)
In fighting bad memories, thoughts, and the like, we are giving those things power! We don't want to give them power! We want to give OURSELVES power. One's thoughts and one's self are two separate entities. We have to envision ourself as capable of anything and on the verge of flying into our blissful future. Conversely, the thoughts that we fight (and inadvertantly give power to) are the rocks that keep weighing us down. Sometimes they're the size of boulders!! We don't want to turn into Atlas! We want to free ourselves of the weight that holds us down! And here's what we do...
Next time your thoughts turn bad or those memories pop up, don't fight them. Just acknowledge them and accept that they exist. That's right, it's that easy! Just accept them! One's fear of the thoughts is what gives them so much power. When you accept them, they mean nothing. Accept that they have popped into your head, accept that you have some bad childhood memories, and accept that you know they exist, but you refuse to let them weigh you down. :)
I promisepromisepromise that you will eventually love your thoughts!! Maybe not right now, and maybe not today, but eventually. And loving your thoughts means that you don't have the weights holding you down, which leads to more self-acceptance, which opens more doors than ever before!!! It's an endless cycle of wonerfulness!!
Keep me posted on how you do!! :)